Tuesday, August 3, 2010

GETTING BACK INTO THE DATING GAME

This is my family. Left to right:
My baby, Marybeth
My oldest, Eva (Diva)
Little ole me
My "adopted" sister, Bobbi
My middle child, Anna


Now, for the reason to post.


It has been a long time since
I have posted. I haven't been all
that busy. In fact I'm
beginning to realize that my
life has become lonely and boring
and that I miss having a man
around the house.


I have been on vacations and
cruises with my daughters
and girlfriends, trips with
the senior citizens, but too often
I find I'm doing my favorite
things alone. My daughters all
live back east, my favorite travel
partner has found a new love
and our plans for a trip to Ireland
and Scotland as well as a cruise
up the Rhine, to Hawaii and
Alaska have been put aside.
My middle daughter has also
found a new love and has changed
her plans to spend two weeks
with me in September. Yes, they
were all here once this year
but I was looking forward to
another visit. From the way things
are going my daughters next
vacation will be a honeymoon.
I'm so happy for her but.....


My sister and girlfriends got
together for a combined
birthday party. Two of my
friends, Dottie and Bea, were talking
about all the fun they were having
since they joined a senior dating
site. In fact Dottie, at age 80,
seems to have found her perfect
match. So I came home and
joined up.


I'm way way out of practice with
this dating thing. As my past
blogs say, after my first husband
died it was only a year and a
half before I met my 2nd, who after
we started talking we realized
we had met years ago at several
corporate financial conferences.
So there was no real dating,
looking for the perfect mate, we
just melded into a wonderful
10 year relationship.


Still, how hard could it be to
seek out a new mate? Not to brag
but I look darned good for my
age, I have a good sense of humor,
I'm happy and positive, I'm
reasonably intelligent, and I am
financially secure. In my (biased)
opinion I am a good catch.


And here I am a month later
still without a date. Perhaps one
mistake I made was to state
I am financially secure. Seems this
put up the "scam antenna" out
to attract 50 somethings looking
for a sugar momma. Half of those
who contact me are in this
category. Hey guys! I wasn't born
yesterday. I am not flattered or
all-a-flutter. I got my money because
I'm smart, know how to invest,
and worked hard.


I get lots of "winks" and "I'm interested"
messages. At first I responded to
a few of them and found out they
came from men who seem to be
incapable of constructing an
entire sentence. If you can't tap out
a decent message how well will
you be able to communicate?
I was married to a non-communicator
for 30+ years, no thanks to that
again. And finally the most
annoying ones. Elderly men looking
for a test subject to so they can
try out their Viagra prescription,
and/or obviously looking for
a replacement housewife who
will cook, clean, and do laundry.
Sorry guys, my idea of
planning a meal is deciding
what to order from Chinese
take out. I do laundry for two
reasons, I ran out of under ware
or I have to sit on the cloths
hamper to close it. And cleaning?
I vacuum up the big chunks
and tell everyone that all
flat surfaces are not really
dusty, they are frosted.... Just
don't touch them and spoil
the effect.


So I finally found one really
good prospect.... exactly what
I am looking for. Seriously
involved with vintage cars,
something I have loved forever,
active, and can actually
communicate.

Unfortunately, one big draw back,
he's 5 years younger than me.
Well, he answered me right away.
Said the age difference is not
an issue. Yea! But as I read
on the disappointment came....
he is already communicating
with someone else, I hope it's
not Bea, and he wants to
meet her before moving on to
meeting me. But he wants to
remain pen pals.


Oh well, I'll wait out being 2nd
place choice for awhile...
But.....


SIGH.....





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